19th September 2016
The grass is greener on the other side.
They say that the grass isn’t greener on the other side.....My question is, have you looked?
What stops you having a look? Is it the fear of finding out that the grass isn’t as green as you thought? What’s the worst that could happen? You could fail, then you’ll learn! You could win and then you have gained! Right.
The grass, they say is not greener on the other side. How do you know, is it because someone told you it isn’t? Another question.....What grass have you been looking at? The next door neighbours lawn?
What does it look like? Maybe it is greener, but what did it take to get it looking so green? This is the real question that should be asked.
Did your neighbour get a landscape gardener to re-plaint the grass seeds or did they put down new turf? Did they work extra shifts at work to afford the gardener or did they put in the sweat equity themselves?
The grass looks greener on the other side, but what did it take to get that way?
Tyler Perry says ‘If the grass is greener on the other side, the water bill is higher’.
Are you considering getting a new job? What springs to mind about the move? 1) I may not get on with the other employees? 2) I am going to have to work extra hours to prove myself or 3) I might not like the way they do things there.
Perhaps you want to move house- Disregarding the obvious, like area, price and the amount of bedrooms etc..... What goes on in your mind about the move? Does it sound like this.....The neighbours may be horrid, I could end up living beside the neighbours from hell. Maybe you worry that they won’t accept your animals or that they may have too many animals.
(I have to admit, that with the hundred and one times that I have had to move, I have never worried about who will end up living next to me, and no, I am not the neighbour from hell. I suppose with being evicted and finding somewhere else to live, gives you other things to worry about)
Or Perhaps you have met someone, you feel is better suited to you. What springs to mind? S/he would treat you better than your current partner? Maybe you feel that S/he will help you with this or that, and would love you better. S/he won’t drink, smoke, gamble or any other ‘bad’ thing you dislike about your current partner.
With the above three examples, have you noticed what made the grass greener or not as the case may be? It was your thoughts......’I may not get on with the other employees’ ran though your mind when thinking of getting a new job.. In the house move scenario, you worried about the neighbours. But when it came to a new love, all was well in the garden of Eden.
What about your passion?
What is stopping you from looking over the fence at that green green grass? What fear is stopping you from seeing the colour of that grass? What would it involve to get your grass, your life, as pretty as the life you see others firstname.lastname@example.org
At the age of 25 I was living alone in a flat with my three children, aged 8,5 and 11 months old. The village had rolling green hills, older women carried baskets to the shops. The houses were big and decked out with swimming pools in their back yards. I’d see mothers made up to the nines to take their children to school, some driving their 4 x 4 five minutes away from their homes. I was aware that most of their husband’ worked away from home. I would notice power dressed business women leaving home for work with their briefcases. What has stuck with me all these years, was seeing 3 or 4 women, about my age getting into a car, they were chatting and laughing, all were dressed in sports gear and carrying rackets. At the time, I thought, I should be doing that, I should be going out with my friends, laughing and enjoying life. To me they didn’t have any children to worry about, they didn’t have to go through what I had to endue. I thought of the brief encounter with my estranged husband, after-which I found out I was pregnant. My phone call to him to let him know, and to suggest that we try to reconcile as we had two children and another one on the way, was not meet with excitement. A week later he travels 100 miles to tell me that he had met someone else and was going ‘to give that relationship a chance to ’. Throughout my pregnancy, he only saw me once. Needless to say my baby was born and as you do, you get on with the duty of surviving. Looking back to the sporty women piling into the car, that was about to whisk them off to the local gym, I thought the grass was greener in their world, not knowing anything about them. What have I learnt? I have learnt that you have to make the life you want. No need for scenarios here, If you want a greener grass in your life, you have to go out there and mow the grass or even re-lay new email@example.com
If you want to leave your home, dressed for the ‘office’ three days a week and garden for the other 4 days, then go out and make that life. Don’t sit there, like I did at 25 years old thinking how wonderful someone else’s life is, with no intention of trying to make a change.
My pity party only lasted long enough to wean my baby off breast milk. I enrolled in the new craze at the time, called Aerobics and took an instructor course. I became an instructor and began to run keep fit classes, I would have my two older children at the front and my baby in his pram on the side lines. I made my own hours and enjoyed full classes until aerobics went out of fashion. In effect, I went out to the garden, mowed the lawn and planted flowers. I wonder if any of the people in my classes thought my grass was greener than theirs? Just a firstname.lastname@example.org
I understand that life gets in the way sometimes. I had three children at the time with thoughts of my husband living it up with somebody else. But I decided I was going to change my life. Nothing was going to stop me. I think I had enough reason to stay in my one woman three children pity party, but I didn’t. What are you doing to change your life? email@example.com
How about doing something that is already deep down inside of you, How about doing that something that has been trying to get out into the world for firstname.lastname@example.org
How about that something that has been whispering in your ear for years? It is that something that you love doing, that something that you would do for free. That something that you have given up, because life got in the way. Please be aware that we all have a talent that was given in-order to share it with the world. Les Brown tells a story of a man on his death bed being surrounded by all the ideas for business, that had come to him, in answer to his prayers of becoming financially free. The ideas said to him, ‘ we came to you, but you ignored us, now we will die with you’ Note that whatever you ask the universe for, it will grant. You may ask for financial freedom, and like magic you are given a business idea, but all you see is the work it will take to start a business. Whilst looking at other people’s garden full of green grass, Do not let your dreams, business ideas, your talents die with you.
Look for a moment at people you know of, who are living their lives passion. Serena Williams, springs to my mind. She appears to do her job affectless, No one said hard work wasn’t involved, But she seem to be enjoying life on her green email@example.com
Are you aware that you could work at a job which gives you more satisfaction? If only you would just take a closer look at that green grass over there. Can you imagine moving house and finding out that you worry less about crime by living there. Or finding out that Ms or Mr Charming down the road , the one you’ve been eyeing up for the last six months, turns out to be more Frog than Prince or Princess. Dear reader, you’ll never know unless you go look. Take a chance and go see. The grass may be greener on the other side.
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